Andrea: The Transition
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Wednesday, 22 December 2004
Dinner With The Ex Ex
Mood:  happy
Now Playing: Black and Blue
This is slightly after the fact but I figured I'd just toss it in at the front end of my blog so people can find it easier. I finally got up the nerve to tell my ex ex girlfriend (ie. the one before T*) that I was transitioning which came as no surprise to her at all, lol. I was kinda hoping for a little shock value (don't ask me why) but all she said was, "I knew this was going to be happening soon." Now it's not like she's seen me in the last year or two so she hasn't seen my changes occurring and gotten suspicious so I was like "Wha?!?" She went on to explain that if anyone knew me it was her (we were together for a little more than 4 years, 1 of which we were engaged during) and she had been pretty sure even when we were dating that I would end up being transsexual. Go figure.

So we agreed to have dinner and catch up a bit on things. Unfortunately, after we broke up I was trying to figure out what to do with myself (before I had accepted the fact that I needed to transition to be happy) so I didn't bother to keep in touch with her much and when we did talk I tended to be a bit reserved and generally unresponsive. It wasn't that I didn't want to open up to her but I was in the process of pushing people away (consciously or not) so I wouldn't have to share my gender issues with them.

Dinner was just awesome. I was so upfront with her about everything and I felt like we connected again in a way we hadn't since we broke up. I told her all about my issues and my transition and what my plans for the future are and she told me about her work and filled me in on what I had been missing out on. We talked about all kinds of stuff too and it turns out we have the same favorite store to shop at and even own some of the same clothes (express pants, same style, same color, same size, lol). We talked a lot about guys too. She's dating a cutie these days and she picked on me endlessly about liking guys :-P

So all in all it was a great outcome and I've yet to lose anyone to the news that I'm transitioning (looks for wood to knock on). I told her I'd call her when I got back from the holidays and we agreed to hang out a lot more. Another good outcome, I'm definitely blessed.

Posted by andreaportman at 8:33 PM EST | Post Comment | View Comments (4) | Permalink

Wednesday, 22 December 2004 - 11:02 PM EST

Name: Tyler

This is such good news. However, I was wondering how your little note to Dad worked out? I still vote for meeting in person to divulge this sort of thing.

BTW, you look radiant in your new pictures. Your kitty looks comfy, too. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Sunday, 2 January 2005 - 1:54 AM EST

Name: Alissa

I'm with Tyler. I know you're busy so I understand not updating, but you're something of a tease, telling us that something huge happened but not giving us a single detail about it!

I guess you're making a pretty good girl after all ;-)

Monday, 3 January 2005 - 11:12 PM EST

Name: Andrea

Hi Tyler and it's fun to see you showing up in my blog comments. Sorry I haven't gotten to your emails yet, life just never stops being busy and the further along I get the more that seems to come up. I'll add an update about my Dad really soon, K? And yeah, I agree that meeting in person is prolly the best option for "coming out" to others but some of us have a really hard time getting the words out in person. Writing a letter lets me make sure I say everything I need to.

Thanx for stopping by and Happy Holidays to you. Hope your 2005 turns out wonderfully. ;-)

Monday, 3 January 2005 - 11:14 PM EST

Name: Andrea

LOL, sorry Alissa. I'm not trying to tease everyone on purpose, it was just the way it came out in my quick recap. I'm going to work on that post in a day or so (I hope). Thanks for stopping by to say hi :-)

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